Holding the reins

Why is it usually tough to let people do what they want to?
Why do we want to take decisions for them?
Why do we decide how they should behave?
And the irony,we experience this even more with people 'we care about'.If we care shouldn't we care more of the happiness they feel when they live life as they feel like.Oh sorry of course we want them to but we just want them to do as we say because its 'good for them' *'How?' and 'Why?' DONOT apply here. Parents, teachers, partners, everybody will always want YOU to lead YOUR life THEIR way.Ya, now that it's more clear how somethings not fitting in right lets get down to therapy.
To me, you and everybody who loves holding the reins (for others).....let go!
We keep convincing ourselves that this control over others is because they can't take care of themselves (at least not as well as we do..) But think about it and you'll realize that its because taking their decisions helps you regulate its effect on you and lets you control how good or bad it's going to make you feel.
Now as much as you are tempted to tell people what he/she should do or how he/she should do it...refrain... and if you genuinely want to get rid of this habit of yours....(you should because its a disease!)..

1. Take a deep breath and tell yourself "NO"
2. Ok maybe closing the eyes and doing 1. is more effective (My father has always pointed out the my affinity towards drama since I was two so please ignore and proceed to 3.)
3. Honestly, just talk logic 
4. Chalk out a SIMPLE plan, do not try to complicate it.
5. Avoid questions like "what would you do if you were in my place?"
6. By now you it must have dawned upon you that this task is impossible so STOP 

All you have to say is  "You know the person/situation much better than I do and I know you to be a wise and lovely person so trust and believe that you are going to do the best for everybody and yourself."

 (Yes, you may use it as a format for all the cases ahead)
I feel it is important to let a person be because if you don't and keep changing him, he will slowly lose his 'own' charm instead he will be a reflection of what you think you want to be happy.At this point neither of you is happy because you feel he isn't acting normal/real (I mean how can he with so many inputs to remember) and he isn't happy because all he's doing ALL the time is trying to fit into this mould  you've made.This cast created with excessive pressure and high temperature will crack with time and strain.
Moral of the story: You love people for who they are not for what you can turn them into so live and let live* no conditions apply.